Friday, November 11, 2011
I had heard only great things about Lemongrass, situated on the waters edge in Plettenberg Bay. When my partner told me that this is where he would be taking me I was thrilled.
Having heard that it was quite a posh place, I slipped into more formal attire and hauled out my drastically over sized high heels after work. I dragged a brush through my hopeless head of hair and as per usual my partner looked at me as though I was the most beautiful woman in the world. He fed me compliments through our 20km drive into Plettenberg Bay and I just knew that it was going to be a magical evening.
On arrival, a friendly car guard greeted us and assured us that our vehicle would be well looked after. We traipsed up a short cobble pathway, adorned with beautiful fairy lights and greenery and found our way to the glass door entrance.
Our waiter, a fabulously vibrant and helpful man named Dean greeted us and showed us to our reserved table right at the back of the restaurant. It was all glass so we were able to look out onto the ocean and we even had our own private door right besides our table where we were able to walk through and enjoy a drink out on the patio before dinner.
Although having heard the rumors that this was a formal place, I had heard wrongly. I would not say this is a place to come sporting a t-shirt and ripped jeans, but semi-formal would probably determine the dress-wear for most of the other customers I saw.
I know how frustrating it is to hear that word: Semi-Formal.
My meaning of that for men would be the following: A nice pair of jeans, a button up and a good jacket.
As for the women: Obviously we love dressing up and you wouldn't look out of place if you did. So break out that sexy cocktail dress you've been dying to put to use.
We both ordered an off-the-menu starter of crumbed mushrooms, which had a basil pesto sauce inside. Presentation wise, it was gorgeous; and food wise, I was in heaven. There was a limited amount of mushrooms available so we had to pre-order it as the restaurant started to gradually fill up.
I must say that I was quite impressed for a Wednesday night, almost every table was full by the time we got started on our mains.
For mains, we both decided on the lamb curry, served with rice and poppadoms. It was a mild curry so I ordered extra chilli's on the side. The mains did not fail to impress either. The rice and poppadoms came on a plate while the curry was brought out on a piping hot poike pot.
The only thing I would say that Dean did wrongly is not warn us that it was hot as I attempted to bring the pot closer and almost blistered my fingers!
At the beginning of the evening we were adamant that we would have a creme brule to finish the evening off but by the time that time came we were so satisfyingly full that we unfortunately asked for the bill.
After paying and finishing off our wine, we left our table, promising ourselves that we would be back.
The only last thing that I could possibly fault them on is that there was no one at the door to bid us good night. Other than that, the food came out promptly, it was divine, the scenery was breath-taking, the service was impeccable and we thoroughly enjoyed every second of our time there.
Friday, November 4, 2011
I really do need to get into the habit of doing this more often; blogging, I mean. Whenever I finish a blog entry, I get such a major feeling of satisfaction. Seeing my words become tangible; to me that must be the best feeling in this world.
With thirty five working days left in 2011, I can tell you that since my last post, I have been a part of Jam Factory for a little over two months now and I really do love it. It is such an amazingly creative industry and the people that I work with are people that I can actually relate to and form real relationships with.
Shaun Barnard and I are going into our eighth month as a couple now and we have started to grow closer as each day goes by. We have had our hard times, our happy times and our differences. We have fought and very nearly ended things, but we didn’t. We worked through it and together nothing can bring us down. That sounds so cliché, but it is completely true. We work well together and make a great couple. Shaun Barnard is my soul mate, the one in this world that I see myself spending forever with. For as long as my heart beats and blood is surging through my veins I will live for that man, for he is everything I have ever wanted. He is loyal and he is kind. He looks at me in a way that gives me Goosebumps, as though he is looking right into my soul. He is always there whenever I need him and when he holds me in his arms it is as though he has formed a safety barrier around me. I feel like no one can hurt me when he cradles me and lets me rest on his gorgeous chest.
From the second I laid eyes on him, I knew he was someone that would be a part of my life. I had no idea it would get this deep though, but I could not be happier.
On the writing front, besides my odd rattles on this old site here and there… I have finished my novel and am still in the process of editing it to what I would call ‘polished perfection’. I hope and pray that Penguin enjoys it when I finally work up the courage to send it. There’s no denying that them turning it down would crush me to the ends of the earth, but writing and becoming an author is my dream. So if it so happens (touch wood that it does not) that they turn me down, all I can do is brush myself off and try again. I will spend the rest of my life attempting to get my book published and one fateful day, my dream will come true. I can feel it.
This weekend, I am fending without my man as he has gone to a Bachelor’s somewhere in Stillbaai. Bachelor’s… usually I’d be pretty nervous about that, having had the worst set of boyfriends a girl could ask for in the past. None of which I think were faithful to me, but I have complete and utter faith in Shaun. I know he’s cheated in the past, we have told each other everything about each other… I think that is why we work. We know everything about each other, the good and the bad and we still accept each other. So yes, he has cheated before… but I can’t describe the feeling of security I feel with him. He has hurt me with words in the past, but he would never hurt me with another girl. You know when you just know? We are bigger than that.
So this weekend I am having a girls weekend. I have discovered the most beautiful dress that I will be trying on in the morning, a dress I hope to be wearing to my 21st bash in six months’ time. I know it’s a bit early to start planning that sort of thing, but I can’t help it. I have always been a planner and I always will be. I always say I’d love to be one of those easy going, go-with-the-flow type of people, but reality is that it is not who I am.
“I am me, so let me be.” - Unknown
Friday, August 26, 2011
Thursday, August 11, 2011
For those of you that follow my blog and read the daily shenanigans of my life, you should know that I recently got a job in the hotel industry.
Having worked there for just over a month, I thought that everything was finally coming together. I started planning to rejoin the gym, save up for my trip to Thailand with my boyfriend next year, buy a new surfboard as I have improved and other proactive things.
Yesterday (the 10th August 2011) would seem to me now one of the worst days of my life. It started off good, my boyfriend wrote on my facebook wall, telling me how in love with me he is. We had just celebrated our five month anniversary together, seemingly small but still a proud and happy day for the both of us. The weather was good and I was smiling.
Then suddenly a fight with an agent at work stirred in the air and the day turned sour.
For a couple of days, the bosses had been expecting me to waitress and make guests their coffee etc as they were understaffed. Suddenly it became my problem and the other girls problem that had applied to work here as a receptionist, not as a servant.
I didn't really have a problem with that. I realize that in the hotel industry, when it is busy you must help where-ever you can, no matter what your job title is.
However, I do think that they should be more organized and employ more staff to do that sort of job though.
On making coffee for guests, I had no idea where everything was. Hot chocolate was stored in a white ice cream bucket, but how was I to know? It seemed as though the bosses suddenly expected me to know the ins and outs of the business, but no one had helped or told me anything before.
I had no idea where things were or how to do certain tasks now suddenly required of me.
Returning back to the awful agent crisis; the boss phoned me from upstairs and told me that she wanted to see me before I left for the day.
I knew then and there that something was off. As soon as 4pm ticked onto the clock I slowly and unwillingly crept up the ancient rickety staircase leading up to her office.
Upon entering the office, where I had been employed only a month prior, I saw that my boss held a sealed envelope in her hand.
I stared at her, waiting for her to put me out of my misery.
She began with, "I'm very sorry, Jade..." though she did not look sorry at all. Those four little words were all I needed to understand what was happening.
She told me that I did not have enough experience in the hotel industry for their establishment... which I ifnd quite unfair as they had my curriculum vitae and knew that fact at the beginning of employing me.
Tears of shame, anger, humiliation and worthlessness stung my eyes and I tried to wipe them away furiously but I just couldn't keep it together.
I feel so useless....... Like a complete failure.
I know it will get better. I know everyone says that everything happens for a reason and that when one door closes, another one opens.... but everything just seems so hopeless at the moment.
I know that I can't give up, that would be the worst thing to do. Its so hard though.
Everything had finally seemed almost perfect in my life, everything seemed to be coming together... but it all got ripped out from under me and I landed face down in the dirt once again.
The worst part of all is that they are making me work both today and tomorrow. I find that cruel and unfair. Who does that to someone with a smile on their face?
They let you go, but make you come back in your humiliation and complete two days when you aren't really even needed. What it is, is simply torture!
I am trying my utmost to put on a brave face and get through these next two days.
I am trying to conjure up the strength but it is so hard. I know I have to though, because if I walk out and end things on a bad note, it will follow me.
I need to try and keep professional for the next two days as hard as it may be because this town is so small, I cannot risk it jepardizing any hopes for future jobs.
I realize that I need to be the better person and thank them for the opportunity that they gave me and walk away happily.
I was completely distraught yesterday and cried all night long.
My family was absolutely amazing. My mother bought me flowers and wiped away my tears, my dad stuck up for me and told me he will sort it out and would always look after me and my brother, dear Leonard, sat me down at 10pm and just spoke to me about the time that he was in a bad financial situation.
I think they finally realize that I really am trying and unfortunately I am failing. They were always a bit hard on me in the past, but now that they have seen how much I wanted this job (or any job at all,) and it did not work out, they are finally reminding me of their support and love no matter what.
I am so blessed to have such amazing people in my life and that is all that matters. At the end of the day, work isn't going to be the one caring for you, your friends and family are.
There are always chances and opportunities, so when they arise you have to seize the moment.
Friday, August 5, 2011
So my theme has been decided: One More Time - Relive your Matric Dance
Now I can finally have my Matric dance with the man of my dreams, who I hadn't met soon enough for him to experience that special moment with me.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
It is the last few weeks of winter and thank goodness for that. It has been so difficult to drag myself out of bed in the mornings when it is so cold and dark, but somehow I have managed to force myself.
This winter feels as though it has been shorter than I remember them; it feels like just yesterday I was living as a beach bum; surfing and tanning, a real free-spirit.
I wish I knew why my life always has to be so chaotic. Nothing can ever just be a small change… An example would be: I am either alone and miserable or in a fully committed 24/7 relationship; or I am either unemployed or completely loaded with work. There is never a time where I can just glide through things at an easy pace. I am either at stop street, waiting for the light to turn green, or I am going 160 km’s.
Speaking of relationships and work… I am happy to say that Shaun has finally started spending more time at my house as he adopted a second pitbull from
Just last night he came to my place for a braai and we watched a horror movie called Untraceable in my bed. The movie was almost like the Saw sequels, but better; though I have to say that I am no longer enjoying horror movies as much as I used to now that my life is nearly all sunshine and flowers.
On the work front, so far my new job is going well. I am still in the learning process and am not learning everything as fast as I would like to or usually do though that being said I have never worked in the hospitality industry before so this is all very new for me.
I think I have just started bonding with the other girls at work too which is great… I tend to be very shy and withdrawn at first in front of new people but once I make that ‘bond’ with someone I’m completely different.
In other news, Lexi and Rachel came with my last week and held my hands while I got my fourth tattoo! I placed the design on the back of my neck, it is an African symbol and it means Learning From The Past. The design is a little bigger than I would have liked it but I’m stuck with it now and love it either way.
The money I spent on the tattoo was supposed to be to open up a gym membership account at Corpus Sana. Unfortunately it seems like my procrastination against the gym or any form of exercise for that matter is still creating an obstacle to get back into shape.
While I am on the topic of gyms and getting into shape, I have to say that I am going to be getting a tad ‘heavier’ now that I have started working at Belvidere Manor as they give me a delicious cooked lunch every day.
I say ‘heavier’ because people are starting to turn pretty nasty towards me whenever I complain about my recent body changes.
I have always been a late developer and only now I have started to get curves combined with a comfortable winter coat and I am not used to it!
I know that I am not fat and I am not saying that I am, I just wish SOMEONE could understand that these new curves and extra KG’s are very new to me and do bring me down a lot!
Everytime I feel down about the matter, I end up binging on fatty foods or anything that I can get my hands on e.g comfort foods. Then I feel even more miserable and disgusted in myself once I’ve devoured everything!
What to do? What to do?
Friday, July 15, 2011
It seems as though life has taken yet another dramatic turn for me. Finally, after over four months without work, I have found a job! I started working at Belvidere Manor on Monday morning, with the job title being: Guest Liaison Manager.
So far the job is great. It is off-peak right now so its quiet, which gives me the opportunity to settle in and learn how everything works.
Although quiet, it is still overwhelming. There is a lot to take in and learn but five days in and I'm already answering the telephone, making booking and friends!
Unfortunately the hotel industry means working some weekends and public holidays, including Christmas and New Years. There are perks however... I get to do so many amazing touristy things if not for free then at least at a great discount price. I can go to game reserves and visit places such as Tsitsikamma and Cango Caves; I can also go aboard the Springtide Charter (a local yacht) and take a trip with my partner (Shaun Barnard.) I have never been on a yacht or done so many amazing things, I haven't been to many game reserves or experienced the activities that there are to do around my country so this would be a great opportunity for me.
Most things seem to be almost perfect right now. Shaun and I are still smiling.
One dampner has been set in place thanks to an extremely psychotic women who married an old friend of mine though. She and I had a feud about a photoshoot I had with her hubby that he lied about to her and suddenly it was all my fault. Her hubby told me how insecure she was concerning me because he'd told her that he had a small thing for me a while ago. Although I heard this straight from the horses mouth, she is now telling me that he never considered me a friend and always thought that I was 'annoying.'
Why then, I would have asked her if she had not quickly blocked me after such a horrid reply, was he the one to always say hello to me on Facebook almost every time??? If only she knew........
I do not wish to break up any happy marriage, which is why I sent her an email trying to put the past behind us. We have to see each other at my brothers wedding and this coming Sunday at my brothers birthday party.
Her reply was so pathetic. She told me that she does not think that my 'apology' was sincere and told me she didn't want to associate with me at all. I replied telling her that I would love to have the pleasure of never associating with the likes of her ever again either but unfortunately we are going to have to. Again I apologised and told her that this was as sincere as I could get and added that I was not going to chase after her and grovel for forgiveness when she was the one that started this nonsense!
She then had the cheek to tell me that I am only invited to my brothers wedding by default, not because they actually want me there. She told me that I am just an annoying fly on the wall.
At first I was furious (I still am,) but after really considering these options: a) tazering the shit out of her until she ran away crying from the likes of both my home and my brothers wedding, b) punching her right in the face, and c) knocking some sense into her by smacking her over the head with an extremely thick, hard-covered book... I decided that I am going to CONTINUE to be the better person; and smile and wave.
This means that when I see her I will be as sweet as pie.
Because I don't know if she realizes this but she is a PLUS ONE at the wedding! If she were not with her lying, mangey husband she would not be thought of on the guest list at all! The only reason SHE is coming is out of politeness, not because anyone actually likes / wants her there. I think she is in denial and turning her feelings onto me. Shame.
So once my anger had been settled, I realized how much it really didn't bother me. I also realized that the one thing I could do to piss her off even further is to be extra sweet to her and make her realize how much her snide and immature comments did not hurt me.
All I and my family need to know is that I attempted to make it nice and she worsened it.
After being nice, if she so much as gives me a funny look I will get cross and shout and she better hope she has protection before I kick her cellulite ridden ass out of my house.
Monday, June 20, 2011
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Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Firstly, find a store you know you love. One that without a doubt, will always have at least one item of clothing you can't leave the store without.
Monday, May 23, 2011
The time has come for me to move past my adolescent years and enter a whole new era. Today is the eighth day into my inchoate adulthood. I find it odd to think that it is in this decade that I will be getting married, having children and forming a brand new life for myself. My previous decade seems so inanimate to me now. Perhaps this would be the right time to write down my thoughts of what life will be like as I enter my next decade... my thirties; presuming that the world does not end next year of course.
In my thirties I wish to already be married, to have three gorgeous children with a wonderful man and have a stunning house adorned with family photographs. I will have published the novel that I am working on now and many more; and many of them, if not all, will become best sellers.
I will be a well-known author like Danielle Steel (although I have never read one of her novels, she was the first author to come to mind...) but not too well-known like J.K.Rowling (whose ten novels I have deliciously devoured).
I will still be residing in South Africa yet will have travelled much more of the world.
My kids will be my life. I will give up anything for them and be happy with my husband. It will never be a settlement. It will be true, everlasting love and I will be happy.
That is my prediction – written on the 23.05.2011
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
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Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Apologies for the early morning rant.... but it must be done.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Why is it that the average person would choose waitressing as a last resort? As though it was a simple task, a quick and easy way to earn some cash... Quick? Maybe... at times. Easy? Keep dreaming.