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Traveler. Novelist. Freelance Writer. Blogger. Surfer. Artist. Crazy Cat Lady.

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Don't Date a Girl Who Travels



I got an email this afternoon containing an article - the person who sent it said he swears it was written about me. When he said that I was thinking, 'yeah right!' but after reading it through - wow.

Reading it made me so proud of the person that I am - of the person that I have grown into - but it also left a massive gaping hole that is now resonating inside of me.
This is me through and through - not one character trait from this article is swaying away from who I am as a person.

This is me.
This is Jade. 

DON'T DATE A GIRL WHO TRAVELS

She’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell.

Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it.

Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. She wont party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.


Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.

Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.


Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing.


Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.
She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She is too independent and wont care whether you travel with her or not. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you.

So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go.




Check out the link to the article by clicking below:


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To be a girl who travels should not be a testament that you are undateable... instead, as good old Carrie Bradshaw says: "Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free until they find some just as wild to run with them."

If you are a globe-trotter, a travel junkie, a jet-setter.. if you have been bitten by the travel bug and can't keep still - then embrace it. Come hell or high water do it because you'll never be satisfied if you don't. It will be soul-destroying if you brush traveling off when you know that is what you are craving. It isn't a craving... it is a need. We are a certain type of person. We aren't your average business woman or content with working 9-5pm and snuggling into a cozy routine. We like challenges, we are delighted by the unknown and the uncertainty of where tomorrow may take us. We are good people - people that deserve to love and be loved just like anyone else... we just need someone that understands us and respects us for who we are. Someone who is willing to accept us completely - and vice versa. Obviously as in any relationship you need to compromise and adapt if you truly want it to work. So yes, although the change might not happen over night - be patient with each other. Relationships are fragile and tender things. 

What will be, will be.
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20 comments:

  1. My sister in law is the same way. She is now in a relationship with a pilot and he's thirteen years older with a daughter and a sticky separation on his plate. But, he's perfect for her in the sense that he's an old hippy himself. He loves the outdoors, they fish, they surf, they fly, they hike... There is no adventure too big for them. I'm happy for her because she really isn't the type of girl to sit around and be completely content doing nothing. (like me.) Embrace it, it's who you are..!

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    1. What an inspiring story.. amazing! Thank you for your wise words Hals.. always appreciated and loved!

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  2. Nice story. I can relate my past to it, not anymore though, but I wish I could travel…
    www.minsbeautyequipment.com

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    1. One day you can.... just enjoy your current journey while you can. Before you know it there will be a new chapter and a big part of you will miss this one x

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  3. Oh wow, you really do fit that description!

    You inspire me to be a little more free and wild... thanks for sharing this.

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    1. hahaha I know its weird right!? Thank you sweetheart - its so nice to hear that you inspire people! xxx

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  4. In love with that article, great post, Jade!
    www.kierramakayla.blogspot.com
    xoxo

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    1. Thank you Kierra! It's such a great piece of writing and one that I think all travelers can relate to x

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  5. Lovely blog!! For sure following! Check mine out if you get a chance! :)

    http://alwaysiz.blogspot.com/

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    1. Ahh thank you Izzy! Definitely checking out your blog xxxx

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  6. Great post! Thank you for sharing the link to the article! <3

    Diana
    www.ManhattanImageandStyle.com
    New Outfit Post: A PoP of Red

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    1. It is only a pleasure - I absolutely adored it and HAD to share x

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  7. Jade, your pics are so lovely, Doll! Yes! Yes! Yes! Be proud of the bold, free, Bohemian spirit you are--it's so refreshing (and more of that blissful adrift I'm learning to embrace, myself!)!!! Big hugs, T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

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    1. Ahh thank you Tina! Your comments are always so welcome and appreciated! xxxxxxx

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  8. I read this article the other day, and I absolutely loved it! It made me want to travel again. Great post!

    http://memandco.blogspot.com/

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  9. please check out my blog & follow if you like :-)

    rosinadiaries.blogspot.com/

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    1. Hey... I would like to follow people that actually leave nice comments and read my blog.. not just comment to give themselves exposure. Thanks though and best of luck.

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